spec4 e4 Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 My wife told her mother that I was making her a cedar chest and asked my wife if I could make her one. My mother in law 2nd family does not take care of nothing. The destory a new couch and tv. They took a knife and stab the tip into the top of the table and blade to the edge. Here is my question, would you waste your time and talent on something that you know will be destory? Thanks Rob Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ken98k Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 Depends. Will you wife be upset if you say no? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spec4 e4 Posted December 27, 2009 Author Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 We have already went through it. She not happy, but...... she see my point. I pointed out that our time is limited at home, and her little brothers will tear it up. She was mad for awhile. So, back to the question. Rob Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FC Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 I'd make her happy and do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ken98k Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 I'd make her happy and do it. Women seem to let little things like this ferment for a long time and at just the right time you will be vehemently reminded of your callous treatment of her mother. (She will decide when the time is right) Save yourself some heartburn down the road and build the chest. Just think of it as a worthwhile investment in your marriage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sailormilan2 Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 "If mama ain't happy, nobody is happy." So, I guess it depends on how happy you want her to be. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brokengun Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 This is just my opinion on the issue so… I hope I don’t upset anyone. Keeping peace and harmony at home is more important than worrying about your hard work being under appreciated by your relatives. That said I understand your hesitation to bust your tail and have what you build under appreciated and possibly ruined by others. You say it’s a cedar chest that your mother in-law wants you to build? How about building a chest out of plywood instead of cedar wood but when you stain it add a bottle of cedar oil for smell into the stain. At least that way you won’t be giving away your high dollar cedar and maybe the plywood will hold up a little better. Just a suggestion. P.S. there’s always the possibility that your mother in law would like to have something nice that isn’t ruined. Sometimes brownie points come back in ways we can’t imagine. You never know your mother in law may hit the jack pot some day and want to share with her favorite son in-law. So ... building the best damn cedar chest you ever made for your mother in-law may be an option. Older women like giving cedar chests away as heirlooms maybe your mother in-law has something in mind for your chest other than letting it be destroyed. Is anyone getting married in your family in the near future? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
karlunity Posted December 27, 2009 Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 As long as it is not a point of honor,you will find it both kind and wise to humor the wife. But let her know you are doing it for her and IF her family does not respect you by taking care of it, it will be the last thing you make for her family. karl Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spec4 e4 Posted December 27, 2009 Author Report Share Posted December 27, 2009 I would like to thank everyone for the advises and I still have not mind up my mind yet, but will let everyone know what route that I will take soon. Thanks again Rob Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roscoedoh Posted December 28, 2009 Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 Since your wife went ahead and commited you, go ahead and make her one. I won't make it to the same nicety that you'd put in your house; just slap something together to get her off your back. Then, you might want to have a long talk with your wife about committing you to doing something without talking to you about it first. That ain't cool. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tinkerfive Posted December 28, 2009 Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 Can you start the project to appease your wife but only find time to work on it here and there and not actually complete it until the brothers have moved out? T Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spec4 e4 Posted December 28, 2009 Author Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 Well, I think that I will make her one, but it will be only a small one. Something like a 12X12X20" with a tray in it. Nothing like my wife that I am going to make for her. I just don't like wasting my time. I am only doing it for my wife and I told her that. I just don't know. But it will take me awhile, hoping that she will forget. Like not. Rob Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FC Posted December 28, 2009 Report Share Posted December 28, 2009 She will remember. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShooterTom Posted December 29, 2009 Report Share Posted December 29, 2009 I understand where you are coming from Seminut I would hate to work hard on something just to see it destroyed. Maybe tell your Wife you will after the boys mature. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
spec4 e4 Posted December 29, 2009 Author Report Share Posted December 29, 2009 I understand where you are coming from Seminut I would hate to work hard on something just to see it destroyed. Maybe tell your Wife you will after the boys mature. Fat chance of the happening with her younger brothers. More likely they will be in the walfare system. They have no drive, no respect, and no pride for them-self or other. The only chance is that her mother and step father can not take care of them and we get a hold of them. Just maybe then I can change that. But I don't think I want the job and my wife knows that. I really don't deal with her family at all. I got a diamond from a trash dump. 99% of her family is on walfare or SSI, only two that I know works, my wife and her uncle that was in the Army, he retired and still went to work on base. I have never seen anything like it, expect my two step brothers, but that's a different story. Rob Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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